I grew up with two sisters. I did not realize how different I was from other guys until high school and college. Every other gentleman seemed to be big into doing things like eating ghost peppers, playing sports, and exuding swagger. I was quiet, bookish, unathletic, and staring mournfully at my bone-dry tank of self-confidence.
Anyway, that stereotypical introduction to my memoirs aside, I can now say I’m quiet, bookish, unathletic, and sighing as I survey the slow drip of God’s assurance into my tank of faith where my self-confidence never was. My ghost-pepper chomping, home-run hitting, swaggering brothers in Christ no longer intimidate me as much.
To get to this point, I had to ask the inevitable question of every Christian boy: what the heck are we supposed to do as men of God? As men, we communicate, act, and serve in certain ways. Culture moves on and action, communication, and etiquette are not the same one generation to the next. Obviously, our service to God is affected by such things and our service to God should not be based on those things.
Rather than taking a one-size-fits-all approach, Brant Hansen in his book The Men We Need: God’s Purpose for the Manly Man, the Avid Indoorsman, or Any Man Willing to Show Up merely presents six decisions every male follower of Christ must face should that follower truly wish to be what God has called him to be.
In doing so, Hansen covers video games (he is not anti-video game), pornography (he is anti-pornography), toxic passivity, activism, and so much more with a thoughtful, anecdotal, and quirky style full of genuineness and humility. He commiserates and confesses even as he gently remonstrates and rebukes, and there is conviction in the pages for every Christian man. Whether that man nibbles on peppers for fun or not.
The Men We Need: God’s Purpose for the Manly Man, the Avid Indoorsman, or Any Man Willing to Show Up was written by Brant Hansen, published by Baker Books in 2022, and is 256 pages long.